Learning how to enjoy your own company


Photographer: @the27sphotography |Art Director+Stylist: Indi(@itsmeindiana)

A lot of the times we are surrounded by people; we are not alone. Although it’s not really a bad thing being around people, sometimes you just need to go away and just enjoy your own silence and space.

It’s in the times when you’re alone where you get the time to truly reflect on how you TRULY are and how you genuinely doing in life ; not those lies you’ve been telling everyone saying that you’re okay. You know…? When you just making conversation, like: “Hey, how you are you?” and you just say “I’m good thanks and yourself?” . But really if I may ask are you really okay?

Well I have to admit, we are all liars. Because even on the days where you don’t really feel okay ;you just say you’re okay just to pass time, to make conversation , maybe because it’s easier to just say that or even worse MAYBE IT’S JUST A HABIT… Why do we do that ? Are we scared that someone might not really be interested to hear our truth, that they might be irritated and bored every time you tell them how you REALLY feeling. And to be quite frank , I do it a lot too. Even when I wake up in the morning and my mom asks me “How did you sleep?” and I be like,”I slept well thank you” , even though I know I had the worst dream or should I say nightmare that got me tossing and turning at night. So… to be honest I’m also guilty of that.

I read Maya Angelou’s A Letter to my Daughter book quite a while back but I keep on going back to it(even today)  when I need motivation and words of wisdom. And recently I read one of her chapters titled Telling The Truth where she talks about always talking the truth no matter what. She said the following words at the end of the chapter and they really got me in my feels: “Let’s tell the truth to the people. When people ask,’How are you,’ have the nerve sometimes to answer truthfully . You must know however that people will start avoiding you because they too have knees that pain them and heads which hurt and they don’t want to know about yours. But think of it this way, if people avoid you, you will have more time to meditate and do fine research on a cure for whatever truly afflicts you.”

See , I know we don’t always like talking about the things that hurt and affect us but honestly it wouldn’t hurt if you just sat down , spoke to someone, or even yourself( it sounds crazy but it really works) and just reflect on HOW YOU REALLY DOING. Am I coping? Do I need a break? What can I do to re-energize my life? What do you love doing? Whatever that it is, do it! And I’m sure it will leave you feeling all ENERGIZED again and REFRESHED to start again and take over the world!

But whatever it is , give yourself some time to reflect. Sit down, have a cup of coffee or tea and just reflect , think and just for one second be you, the you that’s not surrounded by people where you constantly have to please everyone and lie to everyone telling them that you okay even if you not. It’s in these times of tranquility where you can hear your true inner voice talking to you with its honest and truthful voice …and not all the fabricated lies we’ve been feeding the world…

I hope this blog post encourages you , to go find that inner peace and quiet place to just REFLECT and get your ‘groove back’. Much Love✌️


-Naledi Swaratlhe-

-Dream. Believe. Fly-



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